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Divorce in The Philippines: Should It Be Legalized?

Divorce (or the dissolution of marriage) is the final termination of a marital union, canceling the legal duties and responsibilities of marriage and dissolving the bonds of matrimony between the parties (unlike annulment, which declares the marriage null and void). Divorce laws vary considerably around the world, but in most countries it requires the sanction of a court or other authority in a legal process. The legal process of divorce may also involve issues of alimony (spousal support), child custody, child support, distribution of property, and division of debt.

(Source: Wikipedia)

In countries like the Philippines, divorce is not welcomed by the culture. Why? One major thing. Religion. Even though the Church, the Catholic Church for that matter, since it actively opposes divorce legalization in the country, I will have my firm stand towards divorce legalization.
Come to think of it. What if the love betwen that couple becomes weak and susceptible as time goes by? What if the couples’ decisions to marry is not a decision out of love; maybe it was an impulsive decision made, thus with no assessment of the moments that may have occured? What if the love that the couples share with each other changed? As we all know, everything changes, whether you like it or not. It is constant. Even our love for someone changes because of some reasons. Most of the people actually make decisions too quick because our world is in a fast-paced state. In our world today, some of the decisions about marrying a person do not come from the couple themselves because the decisions are affected also influenced by some social forces, like their parents (arranged marriages). Eventually, the married couple will most likely have many problems, regarding their marriage and their family, if they will going to have one. Therefore, when a couple gets into this kind of situation, one of their options to solve the problem will be divorce.

Most Filipinos, especially the rich ones, will do whatever it may take them; even change their citizenship, just to get out of marriage problems. For those who cannot afford the whole process will most probably be stuck in the situation and may acquire more problems in the future.

Another reason why divorce should be implemented here in our country is that marital problems are distressing for the members of the family, especially the victimized spouse and children. According to some statistics, the main reason of broken marriages is physical violence. Husbands fight on their wives, and abandon their children so they could live with his another girl. At the end of the day, the victims are forced to continue living in this kind of situation, especially the children. Eventually, when they grow up, most of them will have that kind of distressing situation that they had all the way, when they were still young. This kind of problem will most probably create more broken families in the future. By implementing the divorce in the Philippines, the probability of having broken families in the future will decrease, and that is for sure.

Annulment, which is now permitted in our country, has its drawbacks. Annulment takes a longer time to progression and may cost higher than divorce. Our country comprises half of its population with poor families, which do not have enough income to sustain their daily needs. Therefore, most Filipinos will not be able to afford the very high price of annulment, in case they will have marital problems. In the end, most of the poor Filipinos will be trapped in their marriage problems.

Divorce is better than married to a partner that commits adultery. Children cannot understand the situation that is why you should explain it to them the reason. People are not perfect. We are only human, not gods. We sometimes make wrong decisions, because we were deceived, fooled, tricked. People will only show their dark side during the married life. Divorce is not a joke, it’s an opportunity for people to have a second chance to learn from our mistakes and a second chance in life to be happy.

We need this to be implemented. We are living in the 21st century. We should live updated.

“When a man hath taken a wife, and married her, and it come to pass that she find no favor in his eyes, because he hath found some uncleanness in her: then let him write her a bill of divorcement, and give it in her hand, and send her out of his house. And when she is departed out of his house, she may go and be another man’s wife.”

– Deuteronomy 24:1-2